How romantic you should be

At the first date how romantic you should be?

No matter if you think about the first romantic date with a new person or just the first date in your life, this special occasion is a very emotionally as well as intellectually challenging one and that because of the pressure of "first impression counts" wise and old, still actual, saying.

Yes, that's true, the first impression counts and this is what you should have in mind when preparing to go out for a first romantic date with your possible next love or who knows ?!... maybe the greatest love of your life.

When I talk about first impression I don't necessary mean the impression provoked by the way you look - it does count that, too, however it is not the most important aspect - but I am talking about the way your girlfriend will be left feeling about dating with you.

There is a famous and true saying, "People will not remember what you said. People will not remember what you did. But people will always remember how you made them feel." ( Maya Angelou ), which apply even for romantic dating situations.

But what does "romantic date" mean?

Well, it seems that there is not such thing as an universally valid definition for this concept, the meaning varies largely from person to person. Generally speaking, romance is an outward expression of someone's affection in a such creative yet old fashioned ways that would make the beneficiary emotionally overwhelmed by the passion displayed. We can say then that being romantic means expressing creatively your love for your mate.

Let's see now how can you make her leave with the feeling that the time spent with you was a great romantic date and that you're The One for her.

First, you should make a list of the "data" you already have about your girl and start planning your date taking in consideration that information.

For example, if you know about her she is kind of 'tough" girl who likes to watch and to do extreme sports and prefer to watch action movies instead of love stories, chances are that she appreciates more the "macho" type boy than an overly romantic one and in this case be wise and act consequently.

This does not mean you should behave like a totally anti-romantic "macho" during your romantic date, but rather that you should moderate your romantic gestures.

Neither appear with a bunch of red roses when meeting her, nor let her leave without any flower, better make your walking/driving itinerary beside a flower shop, stop there and invite her to choose her favorite flowers.

Also, this way you make sure won't pick the wrong flowers ( you might be surprised but there are a lot of girls who simply don't like roses despite of the romantic potential meaning they have, though they might never express that explicitly to you).

The next step is to choose carefully the place where to go and the type of activity you'll do. No matter what personality is your girl, for a first romantic date avoid the crowded places such as a cinema, theatres, museums, amusement parks and the like even if your date is the extrovert type and would normally prefer such places.

Why? Because you won't have the opportunity to talk about yourself and get to know each other better, a crucial condition for propelling and developing a lasting relationship.

Plus, you may risk to leave the girl having a feeling that you were afraid of spending time "face to face" with her and preferred instead to "hide" behind the crowd, she might even think you don't actually like her that much and she 's just an "adventure" for you.

Remember that this first romantic date is essential to convince her you're worthy of being her next boyfriend, it's not time to be cheap now , so pick up a nice restaurant and have dinner together . Don't forget to announce her in advance where you have in mind to go, that way she could dress properly for the event. Apart for spending a romantic evening (you might even invite her to dance if you're good at dancing), you'll have an excellent opportunity to find out more about each other preferences.

Another important thing to take in consideration for a romantic date is to leave room for mystery, too. Don't share with her every of your hobbies, dreams, thoughts and plans for future, you'll look like a nice guy but totally uninteresting, good to be "just friends", not her lover.

Girls love "magic", that would make them dream with open eyes and they'll go crazy for the guy who knows how to create that sensation.

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Rekindling the flames of love

When and how to rekindle the flames of love

Romantic relationships require a lot of creativity in order to survive, there is not such thing as "lasting forever and ever" without you or your partner doing nothing special for that.

How could one determine the right time to start thinking about rekindling the flames of love? A relationship does not fade out all of a sudden, there are warning signs revealing your relationship is in trouble and here are some:

1. Your partner begins to get bored in your presence after a while and doesn't seem to be so interested in your daily activities when you tell him how you spent your day;

2. He forgets to call and tell you he'll stay longer hours at his job, if you live together;

3. He behaves capriciously ,one moment being warm and affectionate and the next one he changes to that "leave me alone, I don't need you " attitude;

4. You feel you love and think about him more than he loves and thinks about you;

5. He forgets to celebrate the day you first met or worse he didn't remember your birthday;

6. He refuses to admit your relationship is falling down and need some attention from both of you in order to rekindle the flames of love between you.

What do you need to do when your relationship shows some of or all these signs?

Is there a way the romance be reinforced into your life? Here are some suggestions on how to rekindle the flames of love:

1. Remember the early stages of your romance and what made him fall in love with you in the first place ,then try to recreate that atmosphere .You may even plan a romantic weekend in an exotic place or somewhere else and enjoy that time doing fun things together as you used to do once;you'll be surprised to see how a simple weekend spent together with your lover in a quiet romantic place can do wonders on a relationship;

2. Surprise him with a well prepared aphrodisiac dinner when he less expects that from you( for example ,you might call and tell him you have a headache and will take a rest till he comes back home ,then wait for him dressed like for a special occasion , the table set with nice tablecloth ,cloth napkins , crystal glasses , champagne, flowers , light candles at the entrance of your home and one of your favorite romantic songs playing in the background );

3. Compliment him for any of his well mannered gestures and don't take them for granted;in the same time refrain from nagging him for all the things he forgot to do or say;

4. Reassure your boyfriend of your unconditional love by telling him those three magical old fashioned words "I love you" ,he needs to hear them from your mouth from time to time;

5. Encourage him to talk about his feelings and share his problems with you;be a good listener when he finally decides to open up to you ( men are more conceited beings than women and would rather keep for them any problem ), that meaning letting him to finish his speech;

6. Be supportive , understanding , sympathetic in his bad days rather than reproaching him he's not in good mood; talk to him gently and convince him to seek medical help if looks like he suffers from some kind of depression , especially when things are not going well in his life;

7. Don't wait for a special occasion and buy him that nice tie which goes well with his new suit just to show he's on your mind all day long; you'll get more chances to make him remember the things that are important for you and repay your gesture with a surprise ,too;

8. Work to improve the way you communicate with each other; learn to tell your man what do you expect from him ,remember he's into a romantic affair with you not into guessing games and usually men don't take time to wonder what their women want but rather will assume they can speak their mind up.

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